How to Let Go of Someone You Really Love

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I always held on to hope that maybe he just needed some space and we would be back together again. But he had so much trauma, selfish, ego, and inconsideration to name the least. He owes so much to IRS and others.

When you see the green expert checkmark on a wikiHow article, you know that the article has received careful review by a qualified expert. Once you get over the initial grief of losing this person, it is a good time for a truthful look at your former relationship.

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My last breakup lasted three months. We both knew it had to end, but our intense attraction made it nearly impossible to cut ties completely. This cycle repeated until I hit my breaking point. Here are 5 ways to heal and find : 1. Give yourself permission to grieve. The act of crying is scientifically proven to lower stress and elevate your mood. This may seem obvious, but sadly, , and things will magically sort themselves out. However, dwelling on something you have no control over will only add to your misery. Distance yourself and get rid of relationship reminders. Many people have a hard time letting go completely and stay in touch, regardless of how much it hurts. Cutting off contact, at least temporarily, is essential for your mental well-being. Also, get rid of the tangible reminders—pictures, clothes, and songs—that can trigger nostalgia. Remember the why you broke up. Glorifying the past will do nothing but hurt you. Keep busy and find ways to distract yourself. A little fresh air can go a long way when your brain is taxed and your heart is weary. Remain optimistic and have faith you will find love again. When you let go of someone who was bad for you, you make room in your life for new people and new possibilities. Starting over can be scary—you may fear being vulnerable or getting hurt again—but it is only when you truly let go that a new love can come in. Prepare yourself by , and you will ultimately find a healthier, deeper love. Thank you Kaitlin for such a great and hit home article. I hold on to photos of our times together and even reach out to her at times. She has asked me to let go and at times I feel lonely and reminisce about the good time she and I had. I forget the reason for the break up. Your article made me look at what I have been thinking I needed to do but took no action towards letting go. Thank you I need to hear read this. I have spent almost 2 years in the acute grieving phase. How long is it realistic for the process of grieving to take??. I am not great with words but I wanted to tell you about a client named John, I had several years ago who had been married for 52 years to the same women when she died. But to my surprise 2 years later John stopped by my office to drop off and invitation to his wedding. When I asked him about his fiancé his whole Lit up and an even bigger smile appeared in his face he said he finally knew what being in love felt. John told me that he had had a great wife who had been a wonderful mother to his four children and he had loved her for that. But that for his first time in his life he knew what being madly in love really felt and that he was the luckiest man alive to have descoverd that feeling. So please keep your head up!! Your ex is a total dump for putting you through all this pain…please change the way you start your day…every morning wake up stretch give thanks and make the decision to be present in the moment and happy. Over a month ago he told me he wanted to marry me and took me to look at rings. We talk about children and marriage from time to time. Once a month, probably. Im not going anywhere. I feel so lost, broken, and just exhausted. I hope all is well for you. Good luck and stay strong. We agreed to ended things nicely. It hurts so bad at the moment. All I can think of is how to get this over soon. I woke up in the morning like a zombie. I just stay inside my room all day doing nothing but crying. Isi of more than you can imagine. My life was in shambles and now its back on track with my soul mate. We were separated for over 3 months. I like to say the 3 months of hell. But now we are back again and more happy then ever before. But I think I need someone to talk to. Moving on is pretty hard indeed. I think I need something, for me to breathe again. It really hurts, even if you cry a million times or listen to happy songs every day, or watch moving movies or hopeful shows it changes nothing but memories that you want to keep but the more I keep the memories, the more I want to seriously punish myself. As cliche as it sounds, time really does help. Thinking about the good times will only hurt you. When I was letting go of my ex, I found that staying busy with friends, activities, etc. I have been in a relationship for five months and it was really hard for me to move on for the first 2-3 months. I finally did what I had to do to make myself heal. Hurting emotionally is hard in it self and the most challenging part of a breakup, but we have to be strong. I hit the gym harder than I ever did and not only did I lose weight, but I felt better because I was seeing results. So, whether exercise is your thing or spending time outdoors, go for it. Let yourself enjoy what you love to do. I am also going through a difficult breakup. I kept going on as of nothing was wrong. Well, I was for awhile. Then one day it hit me. I cried uncontrollably for days. I kept thinking about the mistakes I had made in the relationship. I kept thinking still do why? What could I have done differently? Why did I do that? There has to be a grieving process like the article has stated. But allow yourself to grieve. I wish you the best of luck Marjorie. For me, it helped to reframe my perspective and get really honest with myself: Was he actually making me happy? Do I miss him or do I miss the comfort of being in a relationship? Regardless of the situation, letting go, at least in the beginning, helps provide clarity and gives you a chance to heal emotionally. As for your question about getting rid of photos, the idea is to delete what you can and do your best not to look at the group pictures. It will also make you feel like you are taking your power back. I know processing through this kind of pain is hard because you feel like your emotions are out of control. In the beginning, you have to patient with yourself because the emotional ups and downs will happen. But as the days pass, you will get more clarity on the situation and the pain will become less and less. In the meantime, I recommend staying busy and surrounding yourself with close family and friends. Believe things will get better, and when you can mentally let go you will feel like a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. It just seems that something is different now. The love she had for me is gone. I know she does love me. But we are both miserable, and we both have same problem—we are having a hard time letting go. I know right now you feel like nothing is working, but you are doing exactly what you need to do. Putting some space between the two of you helps you both see the relationship from a fresh perspective. Trust that letting go is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself and your wife. I had never been so in love — with a man who treated me like gold. He met my friends, family, integrated me into his life. He was warm and communicative and we were together for several months. I am 40 and he is 42. He always expressed his love to me and brought up marriage, living together and led the entire relationship. He paid for us to take a vacation in a few weeks. We talked about everything, had both endured loss of a parent as children, and we talked about our past relationship mistakes. We were so happy, relaxed yet still excited to see each other. Then one day a few weeks ago he literally broke up with me in a text message while I was at work. The time together and communications leading up to the breakup were just as loving as the first few weeks we were together. I wanted to speak to him so I could understand, but I never heard from him again. I sent him a final email expressing my love, heartache and confusion and that I wish he would have spoken to me and that I loved him. Since that email the day after the breakup I have not made any other contact. I am in the deepest pain of my life. I have a wonderful life of family and friends, but this companionship gave me joy I cannot possibly experience in the same way outside of a loving committed relationship and I am a pretty joyful person! The pain is crippling. I just cry and cry — trying to understand, praying for peace and resolution. This man and I truly loved one another. I am in agony. Breakups are always hard, and it goes without saying that after a breakup you need to brace yourself for an emotional roller-coaster ride. Try looking at this situation as an opportunity to grow rather than an immeasurable loss. A breakup, from the right perspective, can be a journey during which we change ourselves for the better. Instead of feeling hopeless and focusing on something you have no control over, look to other aspects of your life you want to improve or change. I appreciate them so much. Ironically a few hours after I wrote this I found myself in a conversation with another person dealing with similar pain and I immediately began insisting there was hope to be found. It had me experience the first spark of hope I have felt in weeks. Thank you for your compassion, wisdom, and for using media for good. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I grieved for a long time. Even though it was difficult, I tried to stay positive. As time passed, I started to see the situation as a fresh start—filled with adventure, new people and new experiences. I thought he was the one. He still loves me a lot and wanted to try to make it work again, but I have no confidence in this at all. Despite knowing the reasons for ending things. I find myself going back and forth with my decision. As time passes, you will know if the decision was the right one. Either way, you did a brave thing. Stay strong and good luck! I thought this man was the one, we spoke of marriage and even decided what our kids names would be. I was not very supportive when he started AA as he was talking a lot about God and at the time that scared me. We broke up about 5 months ago but I held on to hope we would get back together once some time had healed the wounds. We started to be friends and very slowly so I thought we might be getting back on track. Then a Facebook post came up, he is in a new relationship. I feel so devastated. I found out on my first day of a international trip and it was so difficult being away from home. I am now home and have cried for 2 days. I just want him to come by and tell me he has made a mistake. I am wondering if I should make one more try to reach out and tell him how I feel or leave it alone. I love this man so much. As painful as it feels now, it will become less and less with each day that passes—as long as you put the work in to heal which clearly you are by looking for articles. The first step is accepting that you cannot change the situation and letting go will be easier. In most cases, it prolongs the healing process. You did the right thing by deleting all messages and reminders of him. Keep up the good work and best of luck! So this made me pull back and need space. She still only sees a future with me. It was like breaking up with me all over again. It hurt so much. I embraced and accepted the relationship; good and bad. Fully move on and let go. Stay optimistic and you will find a healthier, happier relationship. It was a pretty healthy relationship. Although she did dump me once in the second year of our relationship for another guy. But we got back together again. Since then everything has been great. Until recently, she started avoiding me. All of a sudden I find her not at all interested in me or towards our relationship. I try to ask her about what is it that I am doing wrong and I only get to hear stuff like she is busy and she has college. I feel so heartbroken now. She was my first love. I know that moving on from her will be pretty difficult for me. She is not even ready to talk about our relationship. I have never felt so low in my entire life. For a moment I think that I should just break up with her. But then I think, will I ever be able to get up as a person. I feel so shattered right now. Even if you are meant to reconnect down the line, the space apart often helps to clarify things and let you know the right decision to make. I have a question about my ex. We have been together for 26 years and apart for the past 2 months. We never talked about the end of our relationship until today. He said some very mean things to me that were very painful to hear. Seeing him today was scary-he is no longer himself. He has to want to get help on his own. How do I walk away from this toxic person? I love this man with all my heart but I know I have to walk away. It sounds like you know what you need to do. Then you can follow the five steps in the article—most importantly, the last step staying optimistic about your love life. I feel your pain as I have high and low days. I truly never expected anything, other than to be loved, appreciated and validated. When the calls became less, text messages non existent in a time in my life when work and my living situation was difficult; I became co-dependent in hearing from him, as it was validation that I was going to be ok. Needless to say, we all have this feeling in our gut heart as its Gods way of directing us. As painful as it is, time will heal and we can use this recovery time to really focus on becoming better individuals and accomplishing something never imaginable. As long as we learn the lessons and ask ourselves why we stay in dysfunctional situations. And as hard as it is to not communicate and reach out for me; the more I did and the less and eventual non exsistence on his behalf would have only created hope in my mind when I needed to move forward and learn from the situation. I believe in you! The hardest thing I have ever done. It took me over ten years to gather the strength to leave him. He has had an affair, but granted it was years ago. He treated me like I was always to obey him, and made me feel used and uncared for on a regular basis. Yet I loved him and always made excuses. But now I have grown tired and can no longer do it. I left a month and a half ago and I am still crying daily. I have decided no more contact will be for the best…and that hurts. First of all, you should be very proud of yourself—what you did was very brave. Remember that making the decision to let go was the hardest part, and you already did that. Now you just have to stay strong and stick to it. When it comes to coping, different things work for everyone. For example, writing and exercise is my therapy. But as time passes, the pain lessens and one day you will wake up and feel okay. In that time we rushed things a bit and saw each other pretty much every day. But slowly I started to feel negative emotions, anxiety and depression. I tried so hard to hang on, but I broke up with her in the end. And yes those pains were terrible to deal with. So in that aspect, you are doing better than you think! Focus on yourself, do things that make you happy and surround yourself with people who make you feel good. Keeping yourself busy is the key. I have had a rough week, and been trying to let go of a relationship that technically ended almost 4months ago. I thought he was the one, even though the past 2yrs of the relationship have been up and down. Without going into details, it was necessary for me to not be with him…however we both still love each other so much. But it has been almost impossible to let go and to cut the ties. You always have hope. What is making it extremely difficult is that we work together. I see him every day unless we have opposite days off. People say not to leave, it takes time. I want to be able to walk past him without thinking about his arms around me, or giving each other the sweet smiles we used to. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I was still very much in love with him. It was only when I believed we were supposed to end that I was able to move on. I am 43 on Saturday we have been split up now for 5 months we got back together for a few weeks but he kept saying he wanted space and wanted me to leave him alone for a couple of weeks for him to miss me. Obviously I didint do this and now we have ended for good. He even has a new flat. Hes nasty on the phone to me as I keep messaging him and phoning him even on a night out I was sending him pictures of me having fun and now I have pushed him too far and now he wants nothing to do with me. He still owes me money but trying to get it off him is a nightmare. It feels like I am being punched in the gut all day every day, I just wish this was over and have even contemplated suicide but my sister would kill me lol. I was just hoping you would maybe see this and tell me how you are getting on and if the pain is worth it in the end. I hope you are well and you have moved on. Letting go is hard enough, but dealing with betrayal on top of everything is even harder. You have to believe that someone who would do this to you was never worth having in your life. In cases where the breakup ended badly i. One day you will look back at this and be thankful it happened, because you will be with a man worthy of your love. Hang in there and believe you will get through this. It was a 5 year relationship and I feel I had no choice but to end it because of toxic situations. Even though I know this is the right thing it has me cut up inside.. That is a hard step for many people, but holding on only prolongs the pain. In terms of imagining her with someone else, I would suggest reframing your perspective. It really does help. Time will also give you clarity. I dated a guy I met for 3 months. We first met in 2014 at a party. Disconnected, then met again in 2016, through a friend and started dating. We broke up recently because of a lot of factors. Mainly we just have different goals. However, we both felt we were perfect for each other personality wise and we complemented each other and made each other very happy. I recently had a dream that he moved on with another woman and I lost my mind and attempted suicide. I woke up in tears. This was my subconscious forcing me to deal with the very real near future that he will move on. And you would be breaking up because of things beyond your control. Now, in your case, the other issue here is marriage. But the bottom line is that you both need to be on the same page. Keep in mind you also also want a guy who is open to compromise. When you talk about everything, does he seem willing to work with you? In order to be successful long term, you two have to be a team, and understand that you both will have to make sacrifices. Since you both are having a tough time moving on, it could be a sign to try again or at least have another conversation. Good luck and keep me posted! I want him to be happy though. If we are meant to be ,God or life will make it happen. When we broke up I went through three months of agony, panic attacks, anxiety every day, crying every day, total despair and helplessness and even now nearly four months after he is in my mind all day every day…just his face there all day long. How do I move past this stage? Letting him go is killing me. Are these normal emotions and will I get over this? Everyone grieves differently, so try to be patient with yourself. Looking back on everything now, I realized that I spent so long grieving because I gave away such a big piece of myself in that relationship. I hated who I became. I took everything way too personally and put way too much blame on myself. I spent a long time picking up the pieces and repairing the emotional damage he caused me, but the good news is that I will never let that happen to me again. I know it sounds crazy but I am SO grateful that it happened because sometimes you have to go through something that painful to get a wake up call. I am a stronger person now and in the best relationship of my life. You will find someone who will make you look back at this guy and be grateful you walked away. Stay strong because this is the hardest part. And while you are healing, surround yourself with the people who love you. It really does help. I want the pain to go away. The thing that makes it hard is that I felt completely myself with this person. I felt a comfort that I had never felt with anyone else. I felt that I had met the person I was meant to be with. I had been in a previous relationship for 5 years and I never felt the connect in that relationship as I did in my most recent one. So you can imagine the pain when the break up came unexpectedly. I cried everyday for months. I prayed for a sign that we were meant to be. I always held on to hope that maybe he just needed some space and we would be back together again. I even started seein a therapist, and searching the internet for articles on how to move on. I deleted all social media and even moved 6 hours away in hopes to heal myself. It pains me that the hurt I feel today is still just as much as day one. I really want to be ok because I doubt he misses me as much as I miss him. To be honest that small hope is still there even after knowing what I know. Everything you described I experienced myself. The best advice I can give you is this: Think about how badly he made you feel. You deserve to be with a guy who brings out the best in you. A guy who makes you feel happy, loved, and supported. That guy is out there. You just have to open yourself up to meet him. And healing takes time, so be patient with yourself. You are on the right track. Hang in there, and keep me updated. My heart is breaking, and has been breaking. He has many personal issues in his life and is bi-polar on top of it. I have learned his depressive episodes have nothing to do with me, and when I forced myself into them, it was a horrible scary mess. Now, 7 months later in to this relationship, I know the inevitable. I know he has strong feelings for me and even talks about us having a future together, but this is during the happy manic times. This is frightening to me, but knowing the best thing for me and my heart will be to let go. My heart screams NO, but my head knows the truth. I have started counseling to help with this, but I even tell my therapist that I am not ready to let go. I truly felt he was it for me. Honestly, letting go of this relationship actually hurts worse than when my marriage ended. He is older and I wanted to be the one with him through his later years in this life. This will not be an easy thing for me. Letting go is definitely a process, and there is no timeframe for healing. You are clear on what you want, which is great. Talking about your feelings can give you more clarity and hopefully in time, you will come to a place of acceptance. Trust me, I know letting go is scary. We all heal at our own pace. We had been dating for 3 years, even though he broke up with me 3 times now 4 during those 3 years. We got back together every time. But despite all that, I still loved him, and still do. Before this last time he broke up with me though, he said he wanted to marry me and took me to look at rings. Then a couple of weeks later he breaks up with me. Makes me wonder if he ever really did love me. I just feel so alone and lost. There was a lot of back and forth going on, so I can only imagine how emotionally draining it was for you. Letting go may seem scary at first, but as time passes, you will feel like a huge weight is being lifted off your shoulders. The key to increasing happiness, according to the research, is learning to appreciate what you have. Grateful people have higher self-esteem, cope better with difficult situations, are less stressed, and are more satisfied overall. I think this meditation is a great place to start. My boyfriend always tells me he is done with me. Or should I wait for him to tell me? I love him so much. Am I happy more often than unhappy? You feel safe, secure and happy around him. Even if you decide to walk away for the time being, it will give you clarity on the situation. Space really does help. However, today was the hardest as I reflected the things that happened leading to our breakup. He would always convince me to start a family. He also asked me if I wanted a ring but he pointed out that he is not the traditional guy who would propose. I asked him why commit to having a family but not to marriage. Now, you can walk away with no regrets and your held held high because you know you were true to yourself. The real reason so many people feel devastated when a relationship ends is not because they actually miss the other person, but because they gave away so much of themselves in that relationship. You know you want marriage and made the brave not easy decision to leave him. Remember, strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go. And most importantly, when you feel sad or start missing him, remember you are stronger than the pain. Believe you will get through it and be happy again. He desperately pursued me while I was going through a painful marriage that thankfully ended in divorce. I hit emotional rock bottom. This guy just kept pursuing me. But he was so caring and I fell for him. The relationship was super great till I dropped the question. He said he felt bad for hurting me, but I feel like all he wanted was the physical part from me. He was so clever. What I am unable to get over is the feeling of being used. Please me get out of this pain. The guy you should want to be with long term will respect you enough to give you the commitment you deserve. Not someone like this guy who is dishonest and disrespectful. Right now what you are feeling is the pain from being mistreated which is completely understandable. And remember that this is the hardest part, and if you are committed to moving on, each day will get easier. Many times it sucks and hurts like hell. You cannot control that. Now he is the one who ended it. However you have to keep in mind that now you are one step closer to find someone good for you. It is clear he was not the one! But I came out on the other side, as will you! I have been in a two year relationship with a coworker who is everything I have ever wanted and everything I have ever needed all in one. He had a long history of coworker relationships that have resulted in three pretty bad marriages. We have worked together for ten years and been together for two. Changing jobs is not an option. In this case, I would say be cautiously optimistic. If you feel the dynamic shift between you and him, then I would have a heart-to-heart conversation about where the relationship is headed and what to do going forward. Stay focused on what you really need in a person and relationship and you will ultimately find a healthier and more stable love. A reason it is over. Thanks to the writer of this article you are right in everything you said. I have been inlove with a man since 2009, we met and our attraction was magnetic. In fact, the night I met him I had just had a break up and told my then friend that I wanted a brand new toy. We were together for about 6 months then he migrated to another country. Distance never changed my heart. We lost contact via phone but would have infrequent convos on Facebook. Very very difficult relationship, in the words of Eminem, it was like a volcano meets a tornado man. I have been in a relationship for 6 years. Xmas he proposed to me. He has been depressed for awhile about his employment. I have a son with a mental illness and this has put a lot of strain on things. He has told me there is no one else. It feels like I am experiencing 2 deaths at once. My ex and my son. He says he still loves me but he has the problem. He said he broke up with me because he didnt want to keep hurting me.. I am finding it extremely difficult to cut completely off from him and I ring and text. Its only been a week. He My ex is a lot younger than me and at 55 I feel I will be own my own forever. I have great supportive friends but the loneliness is killing me. I did last year, during the summer and it was scary, but after some time and a whole bunch of new girls I met, I was more and more sad without her. So I cracked and started to contact her, and one day I finally went to her house where I cried for hours, and out of compassion she probably thought its ok to see each other again. After couple of weeks we were back toegether and when she moved to a new flat, I came more often, I slept with her 80% of the time, I practically moved in. I loved her more and more each day, and I thought this was it. But then, she left to work for the summer, we broke apart. I got pissed at that so I was a little harsh, little I could know she was just waiting for that. My God, I love her so much, the more you love them the more they hurt you. So please if someone could read this, please tell her I love her more than I love life, and she has become practically my sole reason to live. I am Ivan, her name is Vanessa and her phone number is xxx. Her ig is: xxx. Thank you, I will love her and hope for the best as long as I live. Please, help if you can.

It's up to you. It took me over ten years to gather the strength to leave him. It elements like I am being punched in the gut all day every day, I just wish this was over and have even contemplated suicide but my sister would kill me lol. The problem with family is that we grow up in the fold, believing that the way they do things is the way the solo works. That's why they call it diversity. But we ended up talking for whole nights, and saw how much we understood each other and had in common. This is not life. This guy is using you and he doesnt love you.